40 Kesilapan Ibubapa

1. Pemilihan jodoh tanpa memperhitungkan mengenai zuriat

 
2. Perhubungan suami isteri tanpa memperhitungkan mengenai zuriat

3. Kurang berlemah lembut terhadap anak-anak

4. Memaki hamun sebagai cara menegur kesilapan anak-anak

5. Tidak berusaha mempelbagaikan makanan yang kepada anak-anak

6. Jarang bersama anak-anak sewaktu mereka sedang makan

7. Melahirkan suasana yang kurang seronok ketika makan

8. Membeza-bezakan kasih sayang terhadap anak-anak

9. Kurang melahirkan kasih sayang

10. Sering mengeluh di hadapan anak-anak

 11. Tidak meraikan anak-anak pergi dan pulang dari sekolah

12. Tidak mengenalkan anak-anak dengan konsep keadilan

13. Tidak memberatkan pendidikan agama di kalangan anak-anak

14. Tidak terlibat dengan urusan pelajaran anak-anak

15. Tidak memprogramkan masa rehat dan riadah anak-anak

16. Tidak menggalakkan dan menyediakan suasana suka membaca

17. Mengizinkan anak-anak menjamah hidangan yang tidak halal

18. Tidak menunjukkan tauladan yang baik di hadapan anak-anak

19. Jarang meluangkan masa bergurau senda dengan anak-anak

20. Terdapat jurang komunikasi di antara ibubapa dengan anak-anak

21. Tidak menggunakan bahasa yang betul

22. Suka bertengkar di hadapan anak-anak

23. Sentiasa menunjukkan muka masam di hadapan anak-anak

24. Tidak membimbing anak-anak supaya mematuhi syariat

25. Memberi kebebasan yang berlebihan kepada anak-anak

26. Terlalu mengongkong kebebasan anak-anak

27. Tidak menunaikan janji yang dibuat terhadap anak-anak

28. Tidak menunjukkan minat kepada aktiviti anak-anak

29. Tidak memupuk semangat membaca di kalangan anak-anak

30. Tidak berminat melayan pertanyaan dan kemusykilan anak-anak

31. Tidak memberi perhatian terhadap buah fikiran anak-anak

32. Lambat memberi penghargaan kepada anak-anak

33. Kerap meleteri sesuatu kesilapan yang dilakukan anak-anak

34. Hukuman yang tidak setimpal dengan kesalahan yang dilakukan

35. Sering mengancam dan menakutkan anak-anak

36. Menghukum tanpa menyatakan kesalahan yang dilakukan

37. Tidak konsisten menjatuhkan hukuman ke atas anak-anak

38. Memberi nasihat yang sama kepada anak-anak

39. Tidak tegas mendidik anak-anak

40. Tidak menggalakkan anak-anak hidup berkerjasama 

Dipetik dari buku '40 KESILAPAN MENDIDIK ANAK' oleh Dr. Hassan Ali, AKRAB

Dikeluarkan oleh Syukbah Dakwah dan Pendidikan, Masjid Negeri Sabah. Siri 20/06

Kita Selalu Bertanya.. Dan Al-Quran Sudah Menjawabnya..

Kenapa aku diuji?

Quran menjawab :

"Apakah manusia itu mengira bahawa mereka dibiarkan saja mengatakan; "Kami telah beriman," sedangkan mereka tidak diuji? Dan sesungguhnya kami telah menguji orang-orang yang sebelum mereka, maka sesungguhnya Allah mengetahui orang-orang yang benar dan sesungguhnya Dia mengetahui orang-orang yang dusta." -Surah Al-Ankabut ayat 2-3 

Kenapa aku tak dapat apa yang aku idam-idamkan?

Quran menjawab :

"Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi pula kamu menyukai sesuatu, padahal ia amat buruk bagimu, Allah mengetahui sedang kamu tidak mengetahui." Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 216 

Kenapa ujian seberat ini?

Quran menjawab :

"Allah tidak membebani seseorang itu melainkan sesuai dengan kesanggupannya." Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 286 

Kenapa rasa frust?

Quran menjawab :

"Janganlah kamu bersikap lemah, dan janganlah pula kamu bersedih hati, padahal kamulah orang yang paling tinggi darjatnya, jika kamu orang-orang yang beriman." Surah Al-Imran ayat 139 

Bagaimana harus aku menghadapinya ?

Quran menjawab :

"Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Bersabarlah kamu (menghadapi segala kesukaran dalam mengerjakan perkara-perkara yang berkebajikan), dan kuatkanlah kesabaran kamu lebih daripada kesabaran musuh, di medan perjuangan), dan bersedialah (dengan kekuatan pertahanan di daerah- daerah sempadan) serta bertaqwalah kamu kepada Allah supaya, kamu berjaya (mencapai kemenangan)." Surah Ali Imran ayat 200 

 Bagaimana harus aku menghadapinya?

Quran menjawab :

"Dan mintalah pertolongan (kepada Allah) dengan jalan sabar dan mengerjakan sembahyang; dan sesungguhnya sembahyang itu amatlah berat kecuali kepada orang-orang yang khusyuk" Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 45 

Apa yang aku dapat daripada semua ini?

Quran menjawab :

"Sesungguhnya Allah telah membeli dari orang-orang mu'min, diri, harta mereka dengan memberikan syurga untuk mereka... .. Surah At-Taubah ayat 111 

Kepada siapa aku berharap?

Quran menjawab :

"Cukuplah Allah bagiku, tidak ada Tuhan selain dariNya. Hanya kepadaNya aku bertawakkal." Surah At-Taubah ayat 129 

Aku tak dapat tahan!!!

Quran menjawab :

"... ..dan janganlah kamu berputus asa dari rahmat Allah. Sesungguhnya tiada berputus asa dari rahmat Allah melainkan kaum yang kafir." Surah Yusuf ayat 12

Dikeluarkan oleh Syukbah Dakwah dan Pendidikan, Masjid Negeri Sabah. Siri 10/06

Berkawan Cara Rasulullah S.A.W

 

Huraian

Persahabatan Nabi Muhammad s.a.w. dengan Saidina Abu Bakar adalah ikatan persaudaraan yang perlu dicontohi umat Islam. Kedua-duanya mempunyai akhlak mulia, sama haluan dalam perjuangan sehingga terjalin kasih sayang dan kemesraan. Ia sewajarnya dijadikan panduan bagi umat Islam memilih kawan yang baik. Keutamaan Abu Bakar di mata Rasulullah s.a.w. dijelmakan menerusi sabda Baginda bermaksud: "Jika ditimbang keimanan Abu Bakar dengan keimanan umat sekaliannya, nescaya akan berat lagi keimanan Abu Bakar." (H.R. al-Baihaqi) 

Rasulullah s.a.w. juga meluahkan isi hatinya kepada Abu Bakar seperti sabda baginda :

"Semoga Allah merahmatimu! Engkau adalah sahabatku! Engkau telah membenarkan ketika orang lain mendustakanku, engkau telah membantuku ketika orang lain membiarkanku, engkau telah beriman kepadaku ketika orang lain mendustakanku, engkau telah mententeramkan hatiku ketika hatiku sedang dalam keadaan keluh kesah. Sesungguhnya tiada siapa pun, biar apa pun sekali yang dilakukannya buat diriku yang dapat menyamai apa yang dibuat olehmu." 

MENCARI KAWAN YANG BAIK DAN MAMPU MEMBIMBING KE ARAH KEBAIKAN. 

Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda yang bermaksud: " Teman yang baik dan teman yang tidak baik itu diumpamakan seperti pembawa kasturi dan peniup api, maka si pembawa kasturi mungkin memberikan kasturi itu kepada kamu atau kamu dapat membelinya, atau kamu dapat mencium baunya yang wangi. Bagaimanapun peniup api mungkin membakar pakaianmu atau kamu dapat mencium baunya yang busuk." (H.R. al-Bukhari dan Muslim).

Rasulullah s.a.w menggariskan beberapa perkara bagi memilih teman atau kawan yang baik, antaranya: 

BERSAHABAT DENGAN ORANG YANG BERTAQWA DAN BERIMAN

" Jangan kamu bersahabat melainkan dengan orang yang beriman dan jangan berikan makan kecuali kepada orang yang bertaqwa." (H.R. Abu Daud dan At-Tirmizi). 

HINDARI BERKAWAN ORANG DENGAN YANG BURUK AKHLAKNYA

:"Jauhilah kawan yang buruk (akhlak dan perangainya), kamu akan kenali sepertinya"

Seseorang itu berada atas cara hidup kawannya, maka perhatikanlah tiap seorang daripada kamu, siapakah yang didampinginya." (H.R. at-Tirmizi dan Abu Daud).

MENEGUR KESILAPAN KAWAN KERANA KEBENARAN

Ubadah Ibn As-Samit berkata: "Rasulullah s.a.w. mengikat janji dengan kami supaya dengar dan patuh ketika susah dan senang, yang disukai dan dibenci dan jangan merebut sesuatu dari tuannya kecuali ada bukti kekufurannya. 

MEMBANTU KAWAN KETIKA KESEMPITAN

"Seorang Muslim dengan Muslim yang lain adalah bersaudara, dia tidak menzaliminya dan tidak mengelakkan diri daripada menolongnya, sesiapa yang melepas hajatnya, sesiapa yang melepaskan saudaranya daripada sesuatu kesempitan, maka Allah akan melepaskan satu kesempitan daripada kesempitan-kesempitan hari kiamat,

Dikeluarkan oleh Syukbah Dakwah dan Pendidikan, Masjid Negeri Sabah. Siri 16/06

Follow Your Dreams

I have spread my dreams beneath your feet. Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

W.B. Yeats

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.
Henry David Thoreau

Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.
Harriet Tubman

Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.
Pamela Vaull Starr

All men dream but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes to make it possible.
T.E. Lawrence

Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake.
Henry David Thoreau

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains
And we never even know we have the key.
Lyrics from Already Gone, peformed by the Eagles for their 1974 On the Border album

The end of wisdom is to dream high enough not to lose the dream in the seeking of it.
William Faulkner

I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past.
Patrick Henry

Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly.
Lanston Hughes

You cannot dream yourself into a character: you must hammer and forge yourself into one.
Henry D. Thoreau

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
Eleanor Roosevelt

Commitment leads to action. Action brings your dream closer.
Marcia Wieder

Dreams are the touchstones of our character.
Henry David Thoreau

The question for each man to settle is not what he would do if he had means, time, influence and educational advantages; the question is what he will do with the things he has. The moment a young man ceases to dream or to bemoan his lack of opportunities and resolutely looks his conditions in the face, and resolves to change them, he lays the corner-stone of a solid and honorable success.
Hamilton Wright Mabie

The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up.
Paul Valery 

A skillful man reads his dreams for self-knowledge, yet not the details but the quality.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Our waking hours form the text of our lives, our dreams, the commentary.
Anonymous

Hope is the dream of the waking man.
French Proverb

To unpathed waters, undreamed shores.
William Shakepeare

Motivational Quotations

It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, "Always do what you are afraid to do."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Take calculated risks.
That is quite different from being rash.
George S. Patton

If you do not hope, you will not find what is beyond your hopes.
St. Clement of Alexandra

We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Seek the lofty by reading, hearing and seeing great work at some moment every day.
Thornton Wilder

The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.
Arthur C. Clarke

Without inspiration the best powers of the mind remain dormant. There is a fuel in us which needs to be ignited with sparks.
Johann Gottfried Von Herder

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore,
is not an act but a habit.
Aristotle

Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.
Voltaire

If the wind will not serve,
take to the oars.
Destitutus ventis, remos adhibe
Latin Proverb

Men's best successes come after their disappointments.
Henry Ward Beecher

You cannot plough a field by
turning it over in your mind.
Author Unknown

The best way out is always through.
Robert Frost

Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.
William B. Sprague

Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.
Samuel Johnson

Fortune favors the brave.
Publius Terence

When the best things are not possible, the best may be made of those that are. - Richard Hooker

He who hesitates is lost.
Proverb

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
Albert Einstein

Knowing is not enough; we must apply.
Willing is not enough; we must do.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 

We are still masters of our fate.
We are still captains of our souls.
Winston Churchill

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

For hope is but the dream
of those that wake.
Matthew Prior

Constant dripping hollows out a stone.
Lucretius

Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose--
a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.
Mary Shelley

 

Inspirational Quotes

Try not to become a man of success but a man of value.
Albert Einstein

If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be.
Now put foundations under them.
Henry David Thoreau

 

Inspiration and genius--one and the same.
Victor Hugo

Every artist was first an amateur.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

The more difficulties one has to encounter, within and without, the more significant and the higher in inspiration his life will be.
Horace Bushnell

Life has no smooth road for any of us; and in the bracing atmosphere of a high aim the very roughness stimulates the climber to steadier steps, till the legend, over steep ways to the stars, fulfills itself.
W. C. Doane

Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.
Benjamin Disraeli

Do we not all agree to call rapid thought and noble impulse by the name of inspiration?
George Eliot

No great man ever complains of want of opportunities.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

Men do less than they ought,
unless they do all they can.
Thomas Carlyle

Let thy words be few.
Ecclesiastes 5:2 from Words of Wisdom

Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.
Leon J. Suenes

The power of imagination makes us infinite.
John Muir

First say to yourself what you would be;
and then do what you have to do.
Epictetus

Success Quotations

Along with success comes a reputation for wisdom.
Euripides

They can because they think they can.
Virgil

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.
Thomas Jefferson

Keep steadily before you the fact that all true success depends at last upon yourself.
Theodore T. Hunger

We are all motivated by a keen desire for praise, and the better a man is, the more he is inspired to glory.
Cicero

Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.
Robert Collier

The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.
Frank Loyd Wright

A failure is a man who has blundered, but is not able to cash in on the experience.
Elbert Hubbard

There is only one success--to be able to spend your life in your own way.
Christopher Morley

Success is sweet: the sweeter if long delayed and attained through manifold struggles and defeats.
A. Branson Alcott

The secret of success is to know something nobody else knows.
Aristotle Onassis

The greatest results in life are usually attained by simple means and the exercise of ordinary qualities. These may for the most part be summed in these two: common-sense and perseverance.
Owen Feltham

Failures do what is tension relieving, while winners do what is goal achieving.
Dennis Waitley

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.
Vince Lombardi

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.
Herbert Bayard Swope

Success does not consist in never making blunders, but in never making the same one a second time.
Josh Billings

The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes.
Earl of Beaconsfield

Success is the good fortune that comes from aspiration, desperation, perspiration and inspiration.
Evan Esar

The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed.
Richard Brinsley Sheridan

If you wish success in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and hope your guardian genius.
Jospeph Addison

Impatience never commanded success.
Edwin H. Chapin

The talent of success is nothing more than doing what you can do, well.
Henry W. Longfellow

To climb steep hills requires a slow pace at first.
Shakespeare

Try not to become a man of success but a man of value.
Albert Einstein

The man who makes a success of an important venture never wails for the crowd. He strikes out for himself. It takes nerve, it takes a great lot of grit; but the man that succeeds has both. Anyone can fail. The public admires the man who has enough confidence in himself to take a chance. These chances are the main things after all. The man who tries to succeed must expect to be criticized. Nothing important was ever done but the greater number consulted previously doubted the possibility. Success is the accomplishment of that which most people think can't be done.
C. V. White

And one quote just for fun.....

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Then quit. There's no use being a damn fool about it.

W.C. Fields